Reader Reviews

"I haven't read a book this good in a very long time. I started it yesterday morning and read until I finished it late last night. I am recommending this to all my friends. I think all young mother's of daughters should read this. I have only grandsons but I can just feel the turmoil in the mother's lives as I read it and I'm not sure how I would have handled this situation. sue"
— SA, Elba, NY

"What a great novel. I could hardly put it down. The story line hit close to home......and all of it rang very true. Thanks, Barbara. You are at the top of my list of favorite authors."
— FW, Surprise, AZ

"EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT!!! If you weren't already a fan of Barbara and read this book, you'd certainly want to run out and read all her other books! I have recommended it to my daughter and several friends."
— DG, Lake Stevens, WA

"As always, Not My Daughter, is another title that you just can't put down until the last page. The subject matter is thought-provoking. Not only the issue of teen pregnancy, but is it truly fair to blame parents when their children make such decisions? No plot spoilers here, but you'll love the way it ends. You've got to read this book!"
— AM, Killeen, TX

"I really enjoyed this book. Not only did I learn alot from it but I could not put it down. Having had teenage girls, I could identify with the story. I wish Barbara Delinsky would consider writing a second book about the characters in this book. There is a whole new story about these people and their families. I find myself wanting to read more books written by this author. "
— ST, Marietta, GA

"Another wonderful book from Barbara that will touch the hearts of everyone who reads it. The families whose children are involved are so close yet so far apart emotionally that they have difficulty understanding each other and their own daughters. Susan, Lillies mom, I believe is the only one who is truely looking at the situation with open eyes and through her own experience years before is able to help her daughter and the other girls involved. This book shows that it doesn't matter your status in life, everyone can be affected by lifes indisgressions, whether rich or poor, married or single, support from family or no support at all. As usual, this book touches all the different emotions a person can feel, laughter, tears, anger and so much more. Barbara has dealt with many sensitive subjects in this book, not just teen pregnancy, but living with a child who is disabled, and whether or not to end a pregnancy because of this matter, as well as showing how a community can impact that of its young people when those same young people are thought to be the leaders in the school. What I found was that everyone needs to belong and feel loved and in the case of these girls, they felt that to have a baby would be to have something they were missing in their lives, different for each girl. Thanks again Barbara for such a wonderful book and for touching the emotions as you always do."
— WP, Calgary, AB

"I just finished reading, Not My Daughter. I started reading it on Friday afternoon and it is now Sunday afternoon of the same weekend. It was a page turner! I could not put it down. My house, sad to say, shows it; clothes and clutter everywhere, dishes piled in the sink, kids still in pajamas and homework left untouched. My work week couldn't begin and parenting couldn't coutinue until this book was completed. Needless to say, I loved it! I have 4 children; 3 boys and 1 girl. They are 13, 11, 9 (boys) and 7 (girl). I work part time teaching school and consider myself a good mom; attending all the sporting events, practices, recitals, volunteer for PTA, classroom coordinator, monitor emails and texts, etc. However, this book brought up so many different issues for me. Does all those things stated above make me a good mom? Does attending parent/teacher appts. and making sure grades are high make a good mom? Or does teaching a child to think on their own when decisions are hard make a good mom? Is a good mom a stay at home mom or the working mom? Is it structuring your household or letting the child develope the structure own his/her own? I wrestled with these questions during the reading of this book. At times, I found myself identifying w/ Susan in her attempt to prove that she is a good mother by allowing her child to make her own decisions. Then, I'd turn the page and become Kate, who mothers a large family and wants her children to follow in her steps, but not at 17. Although, sometimes I'd find myself joining forces w/ Sunny, who loves routine. I thrive on routine and find myself sometimes thinking, 'my children will never ______ b/c we've given them structure'. My husband, at one time, was a pastor so believeing Pam's story was real to me, too. What would a congregation say if my friend's daughter turned up pregnant and I supported that? This book has it all. So many personal questions to wrestle w/ and so many issues to confront. It is beautifully written and very thought provoking. Thank you, Barbara Delinsky, for writing this. Not only is it a great read, but it is thought provoking and leaves a message for all that read it. I feel like it speaks to both mothers and fathers as it confronts what women deal with in defining themselves as moms. Bravo! Sincerely, Carrie Young "
— CY, Waco, TX

"Another winner!!! All the characters are so real that I find myself experiencing all their emotions, & turning the page to see what happens next. "
— LS, Vermilion, OH

"It has been rainy, damp, and cold in San Antonio all day today so I spent the day in my pj's just reading 'Not My Daughter' and loved it. As always, I could not put it down - started it yesterday and finished it today. Keep up the good work, Barbara. I'm working on reading all of your books."
— CS, San Antonio, TX

"Dear Barbara, I have always loved reading your books, but I was very disappointed with Not My Daughter because of its happily ever after ending. How nice that everyone came around at the end, even grandma. How nice that there was money, room in the house and loving support from almost everyone. Except for a few moments of angst they barely suffered a consequence for their immature selfish behavior. I was lucky, my daughter waited until she finished college and got married until she gave me two wonderful grandsons. She is glad she had no girls because of what she saw when she was a teen. But I have friends who have gone through this, and believe me, no one lives happily ever after. What does a parent do when her daughter leaves her child and doesn't come home for a week? What do they do when the baby is ill and the daughter lets it go into pneumonia? What do they do when they find out the daughter leaves the baby unsupervised to go out and party? And these are nice, responsible girls who wanted their babies until reality set in. It is too bad that there is nothing in this book that really discourages teen pregnancy, in fact it makes it look almost appealing. The true reality of the situation was swept under the rug, which is too bad, because it was an opportunity to show that no matter how much love and understanding there might be, not all situations end happily ever after. I look forward to your next book, and thank you for many hours of reading enjoyment. Karen Weaver"
— KW, La Mesa, CA

"I posted this on my blog today: Last week I read "Not My Daughter" by Barbara Delinsky. What a timely topic! I'm the mom of two teen daughters, and what is one topic that is sure to make you stand up and listen? Teen sex that can lead to teen pregnancy, now that is something that scares most mothers of a teen. The book is the story of four high school friends, four girls who make life altering decisions. How will their choices to become pregnant together impact their friendships, their families and the entire town ? Set in a small New England town, the main character Lily is 17 and is being raised by her single mom, Susan. Susan is also the high school principal. Lily has 3 close friends, and their mothers also happen to be good friends and business partners with Susan. The bonds of these relationships are tested to the limit when the girls pregnancies are discovered and the reality of teen pregnancy comes to light. Fingers are pointed, mothers and daughters are questioned. We learn how families and an entire community react to the surprising news. Are the mother's of these girls responsible? I enjoyed this book so much. Delinsky weaves a story so well. While reading I felt I knew these girls, their families and the angst and stress they must have been feeling. When I finish a book and I feel sad because I want to know more, I know this is a good story, a book I want to share. While reading it I was discussing these topics with my own girls, and naturally they said things like"oh mom I would never become pregnant in high school" or " I think girls who do that are stupid". When you finish "Not My Daughter" your heart will go out to those girls that do become pregnant, and you will wonder which mom in the book would reflect your actions. It's a good book to read and share with your teen, opening up those conversations is the best way to make let your teen know you want to help them to make the best choices when it comes to sex. If you're not familiar with Barbara Delinsky she has written many books, and the topics are timely and reach into your emotions, and really tell stories about families. She is very approachable on fb, twitter and her blog. She will be hosting a second online chat on February 17, 9pm Eastern time. Just be on her blog site and there will be a sign-in page. I was on the first chat discussing this new book, it was wonderful! You can also request a free signed bookplate on her blog. It's a nice addition to your copy of her book I'm giving this book 4 stars........I really really liked it."
— AL, Titusville, FL

"Not my daughter is a fantastic well written novel! Loved it and could not put it down. Those families had my heart from page one on. Barbara, I always bump all other books I'm reading when one of yours hits the my mailbox and you have never disappointed. Keep them comming! You are the BEST! Nancy Bergmann Cottage Grove, Oregon"
— NB, Cottage Grove, OR

"Barbara, I have read most of your books. Alway love them. Not My Daughter was a very special book. I loved the drama and the love and friendship between Mothers and the daughters. Great read could not put it down. Thanks, Janet "
— JR, Palm Coast, FL

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This is a thought-provoking story with a touch of warmth at its heart.  As parents, we have dreams of how we want to raise our children, who they will become, and what they will do with their lives, and we expend much energy helping to mold them into responsible adults.  But when the reality of our dreams and aspirations collide head-on with the reality of what our children decide to do on their own, the results can be catastrophic and life-altering for both parent and child.

This is played out when three 17-year old girls, lifelong friends, decide to get pregnant at the same time and raise their children to be a new generation of friends. But once they become pregnant and begin to tell their families, the fallout that ensues is nothing that they expected.

You can never use enough positive words to describe a Barbara Delinsky book, because each one is such an amazing read. Perfection does not even come close, wonderful is an understatement, and enjoyable is never strong enough. Ms. Delinsky’s books tell a story, yes, but they also draw you into lives that are complicated, situations that are intense, and relationships that are imperfect.

This book, in particular, shows you how, regardless of what is thrown at a woman, when she is in mother mode there is nothing that will stop her from tackling anyone who dares besmirch her child. No one is the perfect parent; we all have our demons, but we do the best we can.  This book shows that living in a brick house is much better than a glass one!

Mary Gramlich (The Reading Reviewer), www.marygramlich.com"
— MG, Florissant, MO


"This is your best book to-date (& I have read just about all the ones I could get)!! The main characters are so real that I became attached to them from the lst Chapter. I have a teen daughter, freshman at college, so dealing with the whole HS routine and friendships, etc. hit close to my heart I highly recommend any book by Barbara Delinsky (& have done so in the past)but this one is exceptionally good. Keep on writing & I will keep on reading. Your faithful fan, Ev Bedard, Saratoga Springs, NY."
— EB, Saratoga Springs, NY

"Absolutely loved the book did not want to put it down. I enjoyed it so much more than While My Sister Sleeps. I always buy the books the week they come out as I can not wait for paperback edition and I am usually never disappointed. Wish you wrote more than one a year."
— EH, Lapeer, MI

"BRAVO!!NOt 'MY' Daughter...it should have come with a disclaimer; take two days off work before you begin reading. Once you start you won't be able to put it down. Barbara draws you in and never lets you down. The way she develops the relationships between all the characters; Moms and Daughters; ex-husband and ex-wifefriends and foes; amazing..she had me at 'Susan Tate saw it coming! She didn't leave me until 'she was a mother. She had learned this.' I was not ready for it to end. Sequel anyone..oh my....10 STARRS...3 1/2 NOT ENOUGH! MARY ANN..A FAITHFUL READER IN OREGON..NOW GET BUSY ON ANOTHER BOOK..I AM SOOO READY... "
— MM, Salem, OR

"Even though I spent 60 hours traveling back and forth to Vegas from LA this weekend, I managed to squeeze in this new book. I couldn't put it down. At first I was troubled by how Susan's friends were so unsupportive. But then I had to remind myself that they live in a very small conservative town in Maine and I live in a suburb of Los Angeles. I know that it's a different world east of the Mississippi sometimes. By the time I finished Not My Daughter (in the car by the light of my iPhone flashlight app)I was very happy with how all of the major story lines were wrapped up. A very satisfying read for me!!"
— DR, Bellflower, CA

"Very well written book, the flow was perfect and impossible to put down. I have read most all of Barbara Delinsky's books and continue to be amazed at how timely her topics are. As a daughter, mother and now grandmother I find pieces of myself in each female character of the book. I would definitely give this a four star rating. "
— PM, Roselle, IL

"Congratulations on People review! So happy for you, you deserve this...sure it will change to 4 Stars! Have to confess, was not looking forward to this title...did not relate to my life, BUT since I liked all your writing, kept an open mind. Read the first two chapters you so generously offered and was hooked! Like your direct and non-whining approach to mother-daughter relationship. Could not wait for publication date. Love the book and telling all my friend about it...not loaning my book out, however!"
— DD, Worcester, MA

"What can I say? You have done it again, another best seller! Great story line and characters. I was spellbound all the way through. I felt so sorry for these mothers and daughters too. Thanks, Barbara."
— MR, Wickliffe, KY

"I downloaded it on Tuesday and finished it the next day. It's a wonderful page turner that I just couldn't put down. It was quite inspiring and made me wonder how I would react if I was involved in that type of situation, especially since I have a daughter who will be 17 this year. Bravo Barbara...again you have written a jewel!!! I'm sure you will see it on the NYT best sellers list very soon."
— KP, Londonderry, NH

"I have always loved all of Barbara Delinsky's books and Not My Daughter was no exception. She brings you in to the fold of a single mother and her daughters life. She helps you connect with each of the characters in a way that you are pulling for them in such a way that it almost seems real. I love the closeness of the daughter and her friends as well as the friendship between the mothers. I love how supportive of each other they are despite the sticky situation. I would totally recommend this book to any and everyone."
— BA, Spring Lake, NC

"I got it in the mail yesterday and I stayed up till after 3 am to read the book,I couldn`t put it down. I think it is your greatest. It is truely a moving,touching book. It ended just perfect."
— LW, Egg Harbor Township, NJ

"Dear Barbara, I enjoyed "Not My Daughter" very much! Susan is such a good strong character. You blended the adult and teen friendships very well. Always love the happy endings! Have been a big fan of your writings for years, keep up the good work and I look forward to your next book. Georgianna Connor Ingalls Memorial Library 203 Main St./P.O. Box 224 Rindge, NH 03461"
— GC, Rindge, NH

"Wonderful, wonderful. I can"t wait. This has all the earmarks of being one of your best. All of your characters are always so beliveable and situations are so in touch with the things we see all around us every day. Thanks so much and again I can hardly wait."
— BJ, Chicago, IL

"Barbara, the time of this book could not be better. As you have said there have been many cases of teen pregnancy among the well-known to those not known at all. And worst of all to those who have no one to turn to. I have read the first 2 chapters and CANNOT wait to see what happens. It sounds like it's going to be both a learning experience for mother and daughter who will HAVE to come together to face all that is going to happen as the pregnancy progresses. I, for one...cannot wait to see how you will work the miracles that you always do in telling such a story. Maybe it will serve to wake up those who are so quick to judge."
— RG, Normal, IL

"I've only been able to read the first two chapters of this book, but it is first on my list to buy on January 5, 2010. As always, Barbara Delinsky can bring heart to whatever subject she writes about. She does her research and everything she does is done beautifully. This story is going to be great and perhaps give others going through something like this a chance to give perspective to what it is like. Being parents is the greatest joy mine and my husband's life, but then they grow and have children of their own and you become grandparents which is even more of a joy. I fully understand the feelings of this book and can only applaud the first two chapters and cannot wait to read the book when it comes out. Barbara Delinsky is one of my favorite authors and always has been from day one. She's got a great insight from which you can feel the love she puts into each book she writes. She only gets better each time. I cannot wait to see what happens.... Thank you for giving us such delightful books to read and many I've read more than once."
— DW, Montgomery, AL

"After reading chapters 1&2 of "Not My Daughter", as always with Barbara Delinsky's books, I cannot wait for the outcome and lesson learned. She touches so vividly on the emotions between her characters and primarily, the mother/daughter relationship. How true it is as she conveys in this book, the fine line between the dreams a parent has for their child, versus their child's own dreams of how they want their life to be. I also love the way she describes the objects and scenes with splendid color descriptions. And they happen to be my favorites such as teal, cerulean blue and sea green...Thank you so much Barbara for your wonderful books!!"
— LH, Branford, CT